Couple refuse to tell anyone if their 17 month old is a boy or girl
A UK couple have decided to keep their baby’s sex a secret from everyone, including family, to avoid any gender bias.
Couple refuse to tell anyone if their child is a boy or girl
Hobbit Humphrey, 38, and Jake England-Johns, 35, refer to their 17-month-old child with the pronoun, “they”, and dress them in both girls’ and boys’ clothing.
The married couple, are keen to let their child choose their own gender identity when they are old enough because they wish for them to “grow into their own person”.
Close family members have not even been told the child’s sex and grandmother, Camille, only found out when she changed a nappy.
Speaking on the program, Camille said though it was a struggle at first not knowing how to refer to the baby, over time it became natural and her grandchild became “they.”
The couple, who live on a houseboat in Keynsham, Somerset, told the BBC’s Inside Out: “The neutral in gender-neutral refers to us trying to behave neutrally towards our child rather than trying to make them neutral.”
“Eventually, we decided that we wouldn’t tell people whether they were a boy or a girl … in order to create this little bubble for our baby to be who they are,” Ms. Humphrey said.
The reaction to their decision has understandably been mixed. However, Mr England-Johns said: “But over a year in, it’s clear that we are serious and gradually people have got used to it.
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“Although, that still doesn’t stop some pretty confused looks from old ladies in the park when they come up to us and ask if they’re a boy or a girl. It can take a bit of explaining.
“We are quite good now at holding space for people’s discomfort in us going, ‘Oh well, actually we don’t tell anyone, we’re not telling anyone for now.”
Not the only parents raising a gender-neutral child
UK singer, Paloma Faith, has always refused to reveal the name or sex of her child, sharedThe Mirror.