A recent study published in the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology found that kids from families with a single mother are just as well off as children from families with two parents.
Also voicing your concern is also extremely condescending!
6. Using phrases like ‘kids coming from a broken home’
The last point leads onto this one. This phrase implies that these children a ‘broken’.
If they are loved and emotionally supported then it doesn’t matter how many parents they have. The fact they have at least one dedicated parent who makes their home a loving on is all that they will need and very far from being broken.
7. Assuming she used a sperm donor
If a single mum doesn’t mention her child’s father, you’re not correct to assume that she used a sperm donor.
She may have, but she also may not have. There are many ways people become parents.
8. Telling her, ‘you don’t look like a single parent’
Question… what do single parents look like? Is there a certain way they should look?
9. Asking if she receives lots of government handouts
Just because someone is parenting solo, it doesn’t automatically mean they are taking government benefits.
BUT if they are eligible for them, then they are entitled to them.
At the end of the day, it’s not your business to ask someone how they support themselves.
10. Telling her, ‘it’s good your ex has the kids every other weekend, so you can go out’
Chances are, this mama needs some time to herself because she’s been looking after her kids all by herself.
Or maybe she misses her children, but she also wants them to spend time with their father.
11. Asking her if she’s divorced
Many people are forced to become single parents, not always because they are divorced but because their partner dies.
It’s not always a choice for some people.
12. Telling her ‘you’re the kids mum and dad’
Nope, you’re just their parent, regardless of gender. A parent is a parent, especially in this day and age.
Mums can be the main earners in the family, dads can stay at home. Some families have two mums or two dads. Parents are parents at the end of the day.
As long as a child has a good parent and influence in their life, that’s all that matters.
13. Asking if her kids have any good male role models in their lives
Their mum is their role model, whatever the gender.
14. Asking, ‘did you try to work it out with your ex for the sake of your children?’
Having two parents living under the same roof isn’t always beneficial for children.
In fact, having two loving parents who live apart is the healthiest option sometimes for everyone.
What you can say instead is…
You’re doing amazingly.
The kids are a credit to you.
You work so hard, I admire you.
You look amazing.
Shall I look after the kids for you one night?
Do you need anything?
Can I help you in some way?
If you ever need to talk, I’m here for you. But only if you feel like it.
Are you a single mum? What has been the weirdest back-handed compliment you’ve received?
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