Has your child ever thrown an almighty strop at the shops and you’ve been too embarrassed to deal with it? You’re not alone.
According to a recent survey, eight out of ten parents have admitted they’ve been too afraid to discipline their child in public in fear of being judged by strangers.
Parents are EMBARRASSED by their toddler’s tantrums
Parenting website KinBox surveyed 1,000 parents, all who had children under the age of 14, and found that 67 per cent of parents said their child had disobeyed them in public and they’d been too worried to scold them.
What’s more, 77 per cent of parents admitted to having fought with their partner over the pressure of raising kids.
Disciplining can be hard work and can be even harder in public but some experts say allowing misbehaviour to slide isn’t the solution.
Often, it’s one of those situations where you can be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.
A similar survey of 2,000 parents by Cadet150 found that 55 per cent of those polled believed they dished out less discipline than their own parents did and one in four parents admit to openly avoiding discipling their child because they wanted “an easy life”.
“Discipline is all part of growing up and it’s important for children that they are taught the difference between right and wrong,” says a spokesperson for Cadet150.
“Our survey suggests mums and dads tend to avoid ticking off their children because it’s easier than having to deal with them kicking up more of a fuss.
“They don’t want to be seen as too strict and not enough of a friend their kids feel comfortable talking to.”
4 top tips to help improve your child’s behaviour
1. Praise them even in the context of discipline
If your child was being aggressive and destructive with their toys and you then discipline them, then make sure you praise them with lots of enthusiasm for helping to pack them away.
2. Respond to misbehaviour immediately with a calm and clear instruction
If your child plays up, direct them to what they should be doing straight away.
3. Respond immediately to escalations with a consequence
Whether it’s a brief time out or quiet time when your child is being particularly aggressive. You can try sitting them on their own somewhere safe and boring.
Tell them they’re only allowed to leave once they have been quiet for a set amount of time, e.g. two minutes.
4. Reward good behaviour
If your child is playing cooperatively with their sibling, give them a hug or kiss at the time of their good behaviour.
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